Monthly Archives: September 2010

The “Little” things, by guest blogger Big Sister Jillena Furr

Jillena and Ja

Big Sister Association of Greater Boston is open to all girls, no matter their situation, and my Little Sister hadn’t really faced many hardships before we met.  Ja’Najia comes from a single-parent home, but for the most part, she is a very happy, smart and well-rounded young lady who lives in a loving and stable household.  Besides her mother, I don’t think Ja’Najia has had many older, strong females to look up to or relate to, and I feel I’ve been key in providing that for her.  The biggest benefit for me is knowing that I’m making a difference in at least one person’s life.  She is someone whom I sought out and chose to be in her life, someone who is not in my family, or circle of friends, but a young person who was once a stranger and now feels as close to me as family. To know that I’m actively teaching her life lessons and as a result, she will be a stronger, better person due to our relationship is rewarding in itself.  The best part is that doing this has not been a difficult journey and we’re just having fun!  I can only hope that she’s learned to be confident and caring, and that she values the person she is and the person she can become as she grows up.  In the two years since we were matched, I’ve already seen Ja’Najia transform from a bit of a shy tomboy into a confident pre-teen.  She’s learned leadership skills and she accepts all people, no matter what their background.  These are things I try to instill in her through our chats and activities.

Currently, our favorite activities include sleepovers, watching movies, and being outdoors.  We also love to swim.  Our activities haven’t changed too much over the past couple years, but I feel they will as she becomes a teenage.  We’ve said that we will remain friends, or “sisters” forever.  We’ve joked that when I get married and have kids, that she will be at the wedding, and will babysit my kids when my husband and I go out.  I honestly do see us always being in each other’s lives.  It is what I hope for.

It’s hard to imagine not knowing Ja’Najia before we met.  I became a Big Sister because I wanted to give back and participate in something that would help make someone else’s life better.  Never did I imagine that it would also make my life a lot more worthwhile.  That is the gift I receive every time we are together.

She is truly my “little sister” and I truly love her!