Monthly Archives: September 2012

A Story of a Fourteen Year Friendship Onboard “Tupelo Honey”

Guest Blog Post By: Erica Brien, Enrollment & Matching Specialist

Big Sister Marisa and Little Sister Susanne matched for fourteen years.

On Sunday, September 15, I had the chance to join five Big and Little Sister matches at Big Sister’s “Come Sail Away” event, the final sailing event of the season. We met at Pier 6 in Charlestown before boarding “Tupelo Honey,” a boat owned by Legal Seafoods’ Director of Communication Ann Flannery and her beau, Captain Don.

“This is the happy bell,” Capt. Don informed us as we boarded Tupelo Honey. “Every time we hear a happy word, we’ll ring the happy bell.”

As the matches got comfortable on the boat, they went around in a circle to introduce themselves. One match explained that they’d been together for 16 months, another match for just about a year. The next two matches had been together since the beginning of 2012.

“We’ve been together for 14 years,” Marisa, the final Big Sister said.

Jaws dropped. Sounds of the happy bell rang in the air. “Fourteen years!” the entire boat exclaimed simultaneously.

“We were matched when Susanne was six years old, and she is turning twenty at the end of this month,” said Marisa as she turned to Susanne and smiled. “So this will be our final Big Sister event.”

Marisa and Susanne have been together since Marisa was in college, and now Susanne is a sophomore in college herself. They have experienced a number of milestones together: Marisa’s college graduation, wedding and the start of her family. They have been matched through Susanne’s most formative years, elementary school, middle school, and high school, and Marisa has even been able to celebrate Susanne’s acceptance to Boston College.

She put her arms around her Little Sister. “And just because we won’t technically be Big Sister and Little Sister,” she smiled at Susanne, “we’ll still be good friends.”

The winds were steady and strong, blowing us out to Castle Island. On our return into the harbor, Jaelin, the youngest Little Sister onboard Tupelo Honey, grabbed the helm of the ship and guided us as we made our way back towards the dock. Confident, Jaelin shared stories as she moved the wheel back and forth.

Little Sister Jaelin takes the helm.

Each of us had the chance to sit on the bow of the boat and stare into the city. We watched as an orange butterfly skimmed the water, and we chatted about whatever subjects came to mind. We disembark Tupelo Honey feeling optimistic about the morning and what the rest of our Sunday may have had to offer. We became inspired by a story of a positive, trusting relationship built through years of dedication and commitment, inspired by the power of human connection and the possibilities of establishing life-long friendships with a Big or Little Sister.

Gender Specific Marketing – Does it Need to Stop?

Have you ever walked into a department store and wondered why the toy section for girls is filled with dolls, pink Easy Bake Ovens and toy make-up kits while boys have a section filled with action figures, blue sports equipment, and toy guns? Well, you won’t find that at Harrod’s Department Store in London, which is taking a new marketing approach to selling toys. Instead of the typical gender specific sections found in most toy stores, they created a “Toy Kingdom” where toys are organized by their own “worlds” such as circus and tree-top. By doing this, they have opened the door for praise and criticism.

For some, this is the exact change that is needed for kids to make their own decisions on what types of toys they want to play with instead of older generations deciding for them.

“Kids get a lot of ideas early from play about what they can do, what they like and what they can aspire to,” said Deborah Tolman, co-founder of SPARK, a girl-fueled activist movement to end to the sexualization of women and girls in media. “By making those themes gender specific, it leaves out a whole range of possibilities.”

Lego received a lot of heat this past winter for “Lego Friends” their new toy line for girls with Lego colors changed from the original red, green and blue blocks to pale greens, pinks, and purples and offering kits to make Lego vets or ice cream shops. Although there was a lot of backlash, many marketing experts called Lego’s marketing strategy smart.

“Segmentation is the key to marketing and the further you mine into the segmentation the stronger your message will resonate with the audience,” says Emily Spensieri of advertising firm Quiller and Blake/FEM.

Also, researchers have found that children have an inherent preference for certain types of toys that is demonstrated as early on as infancy. Girls like “girls toys” before they realize that they are girls. A 2008 study of rhesus monkeys found that the males preferred trucks to dolls.

Regardless of whether it is smart to market toys based on gender or if toy preference is an innate choice, it may have a negative effect on a child’s identity when companies predetermine what their interests should be through marketing strategies.

Lisa Serbin, research chair in human development and professor of psychology at Montreal’s Concordia University, says that the problem with targeting toys is that “it reinforces the stereotypes and reinforces the separation of play groups. You’re not expanding their horizons or encouraging them to try something new. Do we really want to limit girls to things that are colored pink? To me that’s bizarre.”

Harrod’s is not the only store that is changing the way it displays its merchandise. Toy Et. Cetera also markets its toys based on types of activities rather than gender, with an increasing numbers of independent toy stores doing the same. So, should this trend that should continue or are we being too sensitive to the impact that gender specific marketing can have on kids?

Do you think gender specific marketing has an adverse effect on girls’ and boys’ identities?

Do kids learn at an early age what toys are “gender appropriate” or is it an innate characteristic in both boys and girls?

What role does toy choice for boys and girls have on childhood bullying?